Not one to have ever taken interest in news, let alone politics, I find myself taking an active interest in both of late. With the elections coming up and the many calamities recently, I find the air charged with an unnatural intensity. You know, the kind where you feel something is going to happen?! I find myself apprehensive, specially with no definite knowledge of what the coming days will bring but being in no position to be of any consequence to the financial sector or nature, I can only continue fostering opinions.

The debate is finally on. I've been looking forward to how it actually works. I just love the concept of two parties standing up for what they believe in vocally, without fist fights or rudeness. Pot shots and off the cuff remarks are excused for the spice they provide. What is a debate but a kinda verbal joust between two intellectuals, which trying to convince the audience of their view points. And after the recent debate, I find John Mccain truly lacking in conviction in himself, let alone his campaign for president. I just can't be convinced in the capabilities of a person who cannot make eye contact or show any kinda charisma while on stage in front of His countrymen. Specially, when you are vying for the post that the whole world keeps an eye on. On the other hand, Barack Obama seems to fit the bill of a President in all manners. He's the kinda person who just exudes confidence. He's the kinda man, I wouldn't have any problem going up and asking for help were I ever in trouble. His body language, his tone, his eyes, all convey to you his conviction in his own words. That's the person who should be president. Mccain's age and charisma aside, I never agreed with his politics either. When I look at their views on the current Issues, it seems only natural for Obama to be in the driver's seat of this country. With due respect to his experience, I think today most countries today need a younger person to lead them into a new era. And here, I am not talking of Sarah Palin for she just seems too raw to be holding any kind of office. When talking about issues, talk about issues. When in an election, focus on your role in the same. Do not try and deflect from task by using disasters as a crutch. That's like a magician pulling a carrot back out of the hat, instead of the rabbit and making up a lame excuse for the same. And after the debate, it's clear as day, that the whole ruse of not campaigning was nothing more than a bluff that didn't work. No one needs such a person in a position of responsibility.

I can't vote here. As an immigrant I have limited options. But I have the right to voice my opinion to those who Can make a difference. I really regret not being able to have voted in my country. In most countries, specially India, politics is just plain dirty. In India, the politicians are actual low lifes who are just power hungry. The actual condition of the nation has nothing to do with their position in the government. Nothing about them says that they are here to make a difference. They come, they fill their pockets, play power games and when the time comes move on. When you look at any meetings in the parliament or news about current affairs, it's mostly just hilarious to see the words falling out of their mouths and what Issues for them are. Which is why, the youth in our country prefer staying away from all of it. Voting is mostly done by those few people who wouldn't even know how to make an educated guess as to who would be right ! And what difference does it make ? The most you can do is have the one eyed lead the blind into nothingness. There's a lot more our country and we are capable of, than what it is now. I truly wish more youngsters would take a leaf out of the movie YUVA and take an Active part in politics. We need people to work on making positive changes. But then who would be willing to put in their feet in these murky waters. Only those with experience in swimming with sharks. And so the vicious circle goes...

If only the people in the US, knew about the state of countries like ours, they would have No doubt in their minds as to who they should choose as president. Sure the situation might be similar here but it's subtle and far better preserved in many ways. With adept options, select someone whose willing to bring the country into totally different spotlight. Whose not afraid to say " Let's try this !" . If nothing else, just someone who at least has an aura of authority and self assurance. After all, look at the elite lot of people who have held this most sort after throne in the past. George Bush is, of course an exception to the rule for most of the others have been virtually regal making history in their own ways. America is the land of opportunities, the land of resources, the land which claims to have solutions whatever the problem, the land which inadvertently affects the socioeconomic conditions of other nations, the land of the future. A land, that I might add, at this moment is facing adversities, in more ways than one. Isn't it then, just the right time to hand the keys of such a kingdom to one who can envision on novel tomorrow ?!

Someone recently commented that I seemed like I believed in Magic. Not sure how they got that impression but then I got to thinking. Do I believe in magic ? What is magic after all ? I think in theory it's basically anything related to the supernatural. But whose to say what the supernatural really is or to what extent it's grasp exists?!

Sure, I believe there might be spirits hanging around us, looking over / at us. But Ghosts ? With all due respect, wouldn't dead people have better things to do than think about different ways to scare us?? Just yesterday, I saw on the news, this orb of light that was wandering around a gym. It had been recorded by the gym's motion detectors and cameras. That I can believe. Maybe a relative who had passed on wanted to check out how the business was going. Or wanted to let them know that they were doing a good job or something. Being a believer of reason, I'm sure that even spirits that roam the earth do so with some logic behind it. Searching for answers or looking out for those they care about or couldn't leave behind alone. Now that makes sense. About people who become ghosts due to untimely deaths, well I'm sure those people have enough unfinished business that they needed to have completed somehow or other rather than wasting time getting a shriek out of an innocent passer by. Right ?? But hey, for a person who watches all horror movies through any veil available or one eye, I talk too much. The logic behind the veil being that it's a semi barrier that they wouldn't be able to cross. Even when pausing, I make sure it's not during any of the scary scenes. Why give them a chance to pull a Ring ??

I adore the idea of witchcraft. Snap of a finger, wiggle of a nose, wave of a wand, mix a few disgusting things and you're on your way to getting what you want, within reason. I totally get that if you cast a spell on someone it comes back to you three fold. After all, that's where Karma comes into play. And the whole coven of witches thing. I think that's kinda over rated. It's like joining a club where you talk your known language. And that's so cliched. Then there's the Harry Potter series. I just loved it. That's just an endless wave of possibilities. And it made sense too. Who would want to be given a wand with no instructions on how to use it? It would be like a person having a remote with no idea of how to use it. Totally frustrating !! Did you notice even Alladin's genie gave precise rules on being summoned?

How can I not mention at this point magic acts? Those wonderful illusions that make you go " Ohhhhhhhhh !!!! " in amazement. Unfortunately, the charm of that is getting lost with all the books on magic coming out. Today, magic is more of a source of keeping the innocence of children intact, just a little longer. As long as they go ga ga over Santa Clause, fairy tales and little mermaids, till then the world is a miraculous place to be. What is magic, but a belief that there is something out there that is beyond our understanding. A hope that there are yet adventures out there that we can go on, if only we keep our minds open enough. Isn't that why we let our imagination run wild hoping secretly somehow, somewhere all that's make believe for us, is truly happening?

If we look closely, there's a miracle to be found in all those little moments of life. We just need to be able to appreciate it. Like the birth of a child, it's first steps, light rain on a hot day, the smell of a lovely rose, leaves turning yellow then red, the splashing of the waves, a hidden valley, clouds so low that you can touch them and all those moments where you are awe struck by a stunning revelation or sight or feeling. One might call it nature but many a times, you find them being described as magical.

And then there's the ever lasting, ever flowing magic of love. The one kind of magic that has proven true, changing lives with it's mere presence. I guess if you love someone truly, even for a moment in your life, you have to believe in Magic. For there has to be something supernatural about a force, that alters everything as soon as it touches you. Lights turn brighter, music sounds clearer, smells turn nicer, tears turn to laughter, you notice each and every intricate detail there is to notice about things around you and the world transforms into a stunningly amazing, livable place. As long as you know there is love out there, just for you Life seems easier somehow. Now That Has to be Magic !! Wouldn't you agree ?

Why are relations made so complicated, tangled up in expectations, formalities and mind games? Any friendship should be bound by heart, enriching your life in every way! Loaded with wonderful moments, sprinkled with laughter, with a lavish frosting of well meaning words of advice and lively, feel good conversations. Is a relationship that makes you uncomfortable or is really hard to work at worth the effort?

I'm sure we all agree, every relation is give and take. Of feelings, words, etiquette, gifts, compliments, good news, bad news, laughter and so on so forth. At any point, when give starts overtaking the take by a mile or more, is when it's time to pull out smoothly, cutting your losses short. For there are a lot of people, while never short on expectations, never stop to take stock that the friendship scales' balance is totally out of whack and needs a dose of real thoughtfulness. And sometimes, even the little kindness they shower is attached with a bill of prospects due immediately. Why is that? Can't people be kind just for the sake of being kind, just once in a while. Putting someone else before themselves, and not thinking about what they will get in return. I know for a fact, no act of kindness goes unrewarded so why is it that it is desired to be cashed in, instantly ?

I abhor games in any sort of kinship. I'm more of a say it as I see it person who shooting straight from the heart and prefer the same from others. Treat people as you want to be treated is my motto and I love being with people who I can be myself around. It's really hard when you have to think a hundred times before saying what's on your mind. It's important to know where you stand with those you relate to on a daily basis. Having dealt all sorts of crowds I've learned usually, things aren't how they seem and it's just plain sensible to sort the harsh truth from the portrayals so you can play the game better. Even then I've found that each time, I just find one more thing to adapt to, in order to please another. And still end up falling short on their measuring stick, for there's only so much I can keep in the air, even as a juggler.How can anyone function under such circumstances?

Consequently, I find myself wondering why people try so hard to make things work when it's really not meant to be. At every turn when you feel demeaned, lost, uncomfortable, awkward, ignored, and if nothing else: tired of trying to keep up with the jibes and thoughtless comments finding yourself bursting at the seams with hurt why is it that pressure by society, complications brought on by the network you're currently in, fear of turning friendships into groups or just an old relation that's past it's expiration date and is now starting to curdle compel us to grin and bear it modestly ? When you're afraid of loosing a relation, doesn't that fear haunt another as well ? So, why can't they co operate with you in keeping things unpretentious and just plain fun ...

So, hey ! all of you out there, shelf the games, keep things simple, keep them real, keep it sweet ...

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Everything is ok, in the end ; if it's not ok, it's not the end.

To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.

Loving yourself is the beginning of a life long romance.

Instead of thinking about what you're missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Time spent laughing is time spent with the Gods.

No day in which you have learned something is a complete loss.

Every problem has a solution, every night has a dawn.

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

There cannot be a crisis next week. My schedule is full already.

One should never consent to creep when on has an impulse to soar.

It's NEVER too late to be what you might have been.

When God takes away something from your grasp, he's not punishing you, but merely emptying your hand for you to receive something better.

No one can go back and make a new start, but anyone can start from Now and make a brand new ending.

In the depths of winter I learnt that there is an invincible summer in me.

Only the wisest and stupidest people do not change .

You can choose to do Nothing during a situation... but that TOO is a choice.



These are a few words that cheer me up whenever I string them together in my mind's window. They have gotten me through some really tough times and having believed in them with all my heart, I've found them encouraging me through to the light. I've collected them over time so kindly excuse my ignorance as to the authors of each. I just wanted to share them with all those out there who are looking for a sign, something that tells them to keep moving, no matter what.

You know those days when you feel down and think the world is passing you by. When everyone seems to be having the time of their lives, where you are stuck in a rut and nothing seems to be changing? Every thought that crosses your mind is what's going wrong and when things will be like they are for others. Well, the truth of the matter is no One person is happy all the time. We all have our ups and downs. And those that seem to be doing well, probably have a hidden corner of their lives that is dark and threatening. The trick is to Not let all the darkness we have in our lives to break free of that hidden box. We each have something that another secretly covets. And we each have ghosts that live within us just lying in wait to pull us into an endless abyss of diffidence. Life is a rainbow of all possible colors; some dark, some light, some vivid, some obscure. We just need to make it a point to keep our eyes on the bright colors and keep thinking up ways to paint over the one's that remind us of our failures. Our time will come, when it's meant to and it'll come with everything that we are destined for.

Well, it's in those days I try do one of many things to take me out of the self built walls of pity. Hey ! Life's too short to spend wallowing in a pool of regret, right ? The past is gone, the present is happening and can only be dealt with as it comes, and the future - well, we can just work on building the one we want and await the result.

When confidence is low and impatience is high, tears flow easily and no remorse is denied. Those days I think about all that's right in my life. Every tiny blessing that seems to blend into the background is brought forth and thanked for. Every lesson I've learned, ever person whose graced my life, their entry, their exit, the meaning of the traces they left is analyzed and relived. And then all of it is shelved back into my " by gone folder " after I access how it contributed to who I am today and what else I need to work on. I always try to keep myself as positive as I can. For the rest, I'm thankful to my husband for picking up the slack and helping see all the goodness.

I get up, get dressed, go out, pick up a book,catch a nice movie, do whatever cheers me up and have a laugh at my own expense, if necessary. I've noticed that people with a good sense of humor are usually those who can laugh at themselves. It's a blessing to be able to see the funny side of any situation. Surrounding yourself with positivity is another plus. I regret to say I wasn't always this positive, but over time I've grown to learn that negativity most eats at you. Sure, I still get worked up often and frequently but I vent and then I'm pretty much over it. After a while, the hilarity of the state of affairs and the possible outcomes make their way into my conscious. Soon, a plan starts forming and I work on what more I could do or change to adapt. It's more of a transition process that works towards a positive outlook. That's just me. I'm sure we all have our own ways to fight against our demons and make way for a better tomorrow. As long as we keep trying to pave the way to all the goodness life holds for us, the means is of no consequence.

I went to a party today and the time I spent there could be described as awkward at best which drove me to the thought that conducting a fun party among people at my age is a real work of art.

What I observed was firstly, people are too preoccupied with their day to day lives. Secondly, these days with all that's going on with their lives, having a stimulating conversation is a rarity. Thirdly, having fun for people after marriage comes down to talking about themselves, their current turmoils or their children. And finally, being a good host seems to have become a lost skill.

Thus, I went through the net in search for viable pointers to help along those of us who are at least trying to attain perfection in the art of Partying !!



Arrange food and party favors with thoughtfulness and a open heart.

Keep in mind the number of people and their needs before preparation.

Decorate artistically and serve with a smile.

Welcome each guest personally at the door.

Give each person personal attention.

Introduce people who don't know each other with a short background.

A frowning host makes guests uncomfortable.

Guests do not need to be privy to internal squabbles.

Do not contradict or correct the guest unnecessarily.

Inviting people of different cultures, find a median and stick to it.

Do not over emphasize all the trouble you have gone through.

Don't go into a speech about yourself and your troubles. Keep the conversation light.

Distribute work to guests selectively.

If something goes wrong, don't frown or fret. Explain it to the guests, they all have been there and can understand.

Smile at and try to find a common ground with guests you are meeting for the first time.

Find a stimulating topic for each group of people to get involved in.

Don't push your guests to eat but be vigilant and serve with a smile.

Never let anyone feel left out.

Arrange games to liven up the party, Only if the people involved are the partying kind.

End the evening before they keep glancing at their watches and eyeing the door. It's better they should leave regretfully wishing the night could have continued than with the relief and gratitude of an escaping convict.

And learn from others. In the area of kindness, there is always someone who is more thoughtful, more considerate.

Just as we frequently pick up decorating tips from a friend's event, so too should we pick up hosting tips to make the party a delightful experience !!!

OMG ! I'm laughing out loud. After being told by my husband of the latest Jaya Bachchan / Raj Thackarey Anti - Marathi Issue a few days back, today I made the time to go and read up on the details as reported by the various sources on the net. I started snickering with the first lines and by the end of it was guffawing at the irrationality of the situation.

I just find incredible that people today would rather create a ruckus over such petty issues than Actual problems in Our country like poverty, education, growth. No wonder the world moves forward while we all are left bickering among ourselves. People here are Telegu, Maharashtrians, Gujraatis, Punjabis, Bengalis, Goans etc First and Indians and even Human Beings Much later. And least to say, when I saw the actual video of the alleged comment, a SANE person would be well aware of the fact that she meant No disrespect to anyone. It was just a casual remark thrown off the cuff for a laugh. And Mr. Bachchan and his family apologizing for such a trivial issue, displays the sorry state of our country. Like I've said before, whatever happened to freedom of speech and expression? Instead of curbing such comments, I think it's better to propagate the use of English as a universal language to encourage progress and living in harmony. Above all, demeaning people of that stature that have put Indians on the Global map with their efforts, is down right ridiculous.

Sure, Maharashtra is being crowded by other states' people. Same goes for Bangalore, Delhi and others. Wouldn't it be better to work on globalizing India rather than making each state one dimensional? The source of these problems is more the exponential development of Certain cities, leaving the smaller villages and towns behind. People are just moving in the direction where they find opportunities, progress and amenities. This scenario is replicated in Developing countries as well. What if tomorrow people in United States, Gulf, Australia start throwing out people from other cities? Cmon !! What are they thinking ? What sort of an example are they setting for countries in other worlds? Each one to his own and to hell with the rest.

Unfortunately these people are given support by the Media that irresponsibly provide them with the platform to give the necessary Hype to their campaign. Instead of cutting THESE ignorant protesters to size, they promote the issue till it gets blown out of proportion and to hell with who gets hurt in the process. When will the media realize the failure of their status as reporters when they don't work towards advertising crusades that actually need attention. It's appalling to see the incidents they consider juicy. No wonder news people all over the world have earned a bad name for themselves.

It's this attitude which is bringing down Our country and it's people as a whole and I can only hope that these so called "defenders of culture" soon come to their senses and find more essential and Rational causes for improving the state of their respective provinces to fight for ...

Once when I was really young, my aunt( mom's sister) taught me that the best way to understand another is to put yourself in their place, keeping in mind all that you know about THEM and then judging their actions. Then things don't seem so surprising. I imbibed that lesson into my circuit and found it extremely useful in being sympathetic to the concerns of another.

But lately, I'm apalled and to a point, demoraled by the lack of empathy people really have for another. They prefer living in their self built cocoons and judging everyone else by the yard stick they use for themselves. When will people learn that being a friend/ relative/ human even involves trying to feel for another. Sure, the days to keep another before yourself have long gone, but is it so hard to give a thought to another's state of mind before hurling words at them? In my life, I keep coming across people who inherently make it difficult for me to be in their presence. The more I find myself adapting to them, the more I realize how diffiult it is to keep a straight face and not scream out of exasperation. Friendship that needs to be worked on at those levels is better not faked at all. Whatever happened to free speech and tolerance of another. On one hand we have those who think they Have to flaunt themselves and their belongings all over the place and at the other end of the spectrum you have those who expect you to live by their rules accomodating Their every need and necessity, sidelining you, your words, your actions and your worth as a person. Everyone desires appreciation, love, understanding and above all empathy. Wonder what makes them feel they are a cut above the rest ? For Lord knows they have what every other person walking on the street has, will or can have. What have they done to earn the respect of mankind or just one other? Selfishness, greed, vanity, condescension, envy, are all masked by fake smiles and empty words. And the moment to try to break free of the bonds of formality, people cringe at the thought of having to show some real feeling or concern. In the end, you end up feeling the fool just for being yourself.

Fine ! Don't aim to achieve greatness or even respect, just once in a while give Some thought to the turmoils and pains of another. People really need to stand back and look at their own lives from an angle other than the centre and take stock of their actions/ words and the resonating effect they have on others. Today, more than ever I remember fondly the few people who've showered me with genuine gestures of kindness and understanding. Those few people with whom I can be myself and not have to be explicit at every turn. I cherish them forever and hope that I meet more like them for empathatic people seem to be a dying breed. Yet, for now I'm glad there are people there making lives easier to live.

Read this today :

Share your best smiles for your family, don't save them for your clients, colleagues, friends, strangers on the street. Get your priorities straight. It's those smiles that keep your family together and help the love grow.

Brought me to Google and get the rest of this -

A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life's worthwhile.

Today, give a stranger one of your smiles. It might be the only sunshine he sees all day. ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You

Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. ~Mother Teresa

Keep smiling - it makes people wonder what you've been up to.

Every day you spend without a smile, is a lost day.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.- Leo F. Buscaglia

A smile starts on the lips, A grin spreads to the eyes, A chuckle comes from the belly; But a good laugh bursts forth from the soul, Overflows, and bubbles all around
- Carolyn Birmingham

I've been wondering recently about dedications one gives to others. I've come to the conclusion that self confidence is highly supplemented by the faith of another in this world in your talents. Appreciating whatever one stands for plays a major role in boosting one's morale driving them to become a better version of themselves.

That is why, when successful in any kind of achievement we have people contributing it more to the people who gave them total, relentless support in pursuing their dreams than to their talents. Talents, I believe are like plants. They need nurturing, appreciation and faith in their growth as much as a good soil base. Not the nagging, pestering kind of support, mind you. But the subtle, slow, continuous nudges of praise and admiration. Everyone needs to know there's someone out there who believes in them pushing them forward when the chips go down and buoying them further when on an artistic high. Else with the wrong kind of attitude, talent too, like all else in life withers and wilts to nothingness.

I for one know, if not for those cherished few who've always had faith in me and stood beside me urging me on, I wouldn't even be where I am today.

Have you ever wanted to go back in time and find out what went wrong between you and someone you were close to? Meet someone and talk to them about why it is that you guys are so apart when once you were joined at the hip? Fill in the holes and figure out all that still stumps you when you think about it? Sure, most of us just want to let bygones be bygones, treat tiffs as an experience and move on. But memories being those little nagging things that have the habit of coming up from no where, I'm sure all of us wonder about those times when we were miserable and misunderstood. No one can change the past, but we could maybe just solve the mystery behind each fight, misunderstanding, boycott, no talk zone, rudeness, betrayal and the likes ...

Why is it that people would rather jump to conclusions than talk things over and sort things out? Like I say time and again, I'm no saint but then why is it that no one ever tries to look at themselves and what they've done from another point of view. Sure, most fights are about each one being right in their own ways, but there is still the little matter of what actually transpired. And in most cases, it's just a silly matter of i said, you said or i did, you did. Most people do not even intend to be hurtful, it's just perceived as that because of the bias we hold regards to what we believe is right or wrong.

Before marriage, whenever I had any issues, I used to go around asking at least 2 or more people from different genres whether my position in Any distressing situation had a sound basis or not? Most of the times I'd get my perspective straightened re aligned or would be re assured and only then would I take actual action. Sure, it meant I was an open book but then, I'd rather be transparent than morally wrong. In the process, if nothing else, I got to know myself better. Now, this is not everyone's cup of tea. For not everyone can handle criticism or the metaphorical mirror but it's healthy to have someone in your life who'll turn you right side up.

How many of us have had close friends or relatives and had the courage to tell someone what's not likable about them ? And in time those less likable qualities grow into an ever increasing ravine between you two that just can't be filled with niceties or small talk anymore. Most will say, why should we say anything? It's their life, they probably know what they were doing and there's no point us getting our hands dirty. Why is it that we prefer being politically correct than truthful? Oh ! I don't suggest we go around correcting everyone, just the ones who we truly care about. But again, here there's the little snag that most people turn a blind eye to those who are good to them till the point of time things turn sour. The general motto is " He's good to me, so what should I care ? " One forgets that a person's basic nature is defined by his/her behaviour to all, and not just you. For chances are, a person whose rude to others, will at some or other time in the future, be rude to you too. And then wondering " where did that come from ? " is going to be futile. Every person has a face they put on for different people. It's hard to put them all together but once you do, be it good or bad, it's that time you truly know the kind of person you're dealing with.

Thankfully, I've had a chance to rekindle many a old friendships turned sour. Of course, not every relation is worth putting in the extra effort. Some people and their issues are just better left alone. Yet, in other cases, after talking things over and filling out the blanks, I found it's just a simple misunderstanding, whose spark was given excess fuel to by a third party who sat back and enjoyed whatever benefits they could reap from the spat. Some pieces of various puzzles still remain missing but on the whole, from each experience I've learnt that only if spoken my mind and sorted things out immediately, I could have saved myself a lot of heart ache. So, as important as it is to show the people you care about that you love them, it's equally important to be truthful and should any issue arise leave nothing unsaid ...

It was a surprise to me when I came to the US and discovered the buildings are mostly made of wood. I was fascinated to learn that wood being in abundance in the long gone years, it made more sense to use readily available raw material than grapple with bricks and stone. Thus it's cheaper and easier to use wood for building. One can construct and dismantle a building piece by piece and put it back together MUCH faster than of stone or wood. Wood is even thought to be considerably more durable in some regards. In some cases, when required a home can simple be cut off at it's base and transported to the new location. Putting up a wall is almost as easy as 1,2,3.

Now after a year, I wonder if it's such a good thing. I can hear creaking below my feet as I walk around and fear the people living below are aware of my current weight. I've also developed magical powers under protest, which enable me to ascertain the current position of my upstairs' neighbors. Many a times, I've jerked at a noise that seemed to emanate from within my apartment and discovered that my fears were unfounded. Many a sleepless times can be attributed to ghostly sounds right beside you courtesy movements above. Over time it's gotten so bad that I had to personally go and visit my innocent neighbors and request them to somehow TRY to refrain from making any noise as it's quite disconcerting. Even to my ears the appeal sounded ridiculous but being helpless I groped at the only course of action available to me. It's almost impossible to expect one to walk around on pins and needles, when it's the old floor boards that are to be blamed. Don't get me wrong, I do count my blessings for the padding within the walls, that allow for sound proofing. Else, I'd really hate to be privy to others' conversations and vice-versa. I hear many a humorous anecdotes about neighbors getting distressed or even leaving at the slightest whimper. Like a neighbor who pounded on his walls to get my friends to stop talking, not shouting or dancing, just talking.

Permanent solutions include moving to a stronger structure or becoming a home owner. Both of which include considerable monetary commitments. Moving to the topmost floor would just be a temporary solution only putting me at the top of the pyramid. Now, whenever I hear my neighbors tip toeing around their house, I am grateful for the silent gaps between squeaks but wonder what other recourse is available for people like us who are distressed and yearning for a squeak free life? Never in my life, had I imagined that I would miss all the structures I've ever lived in, for the one reason that they are built of brick !!!!

People who know that they know,
People who know that they don't know,
People who don't know that they know,
People who don't know that they don't know .

My husband, a fellow philosopher had once shared this tidbit with me. Further explained it unfolds to the fact that the world is made up of four types of people. People who know that they they know everything. These are those who are perennial know it alls and kind of hard to be around as they have to be right always. Then there are those enlightened ones who know that they don't know everything and are willing to learn from all sources to make up for the void. Then there are those that don't know that that there are things they are aware of. These set can be , in time, made aware of what they need in life. And then there are those few that are utterly clueless, which are the most dangerous kind for they are truly illiterate in every form and no amount of words can be used to convince them.

I'd found this a very profound and well found lesson. One of those things that help you understand the people around you and accept them for what they truly are. Now I'm not saying people can't change, it's just that most people after a certain age choose to NOT. Among the above Type of people the most important time to aim for is for those who know that they don't know. For once you become aware of something that needs to be learned or adapted to, life becomes much easier. Of course this applies to each and every part of our lives. From worldly knowledge to basic human nature.

An example for this might be, just after marriage when we ( my husband and I ) shared endless arguments for apparently no valid reason. Mornings or afternoons one thing would lead to another and before we knew it we'd be biting each others' heads off and laughing or the absurdities of our stubbornness later. In time, it dawned on him and me that the only time he gets crabby is when he's hungry. It's not that he can't handle hunger or hasn't spent days in his life when he's not eaten for some reason or other. It's that, at a given time he starts expecting food. And if he ( subconsciously ) feels that the food is available yet getting delayed for whatever reason he loses it. Full credit for him for adapting to his nature by being patient, when he's aware that lunch / dinner is going to be delayed. It's still quite easy to know when he's getting hungry as he gets low key. But atleast our fights have diminished to almost null for we both know are now aware of what occurs. I on my part, have learned to prevent the situation before it arises or to be understanding, and try to cheer him up by diverting his mind, if he does get restrained. This is something we all can learn from. When we become aware of a part of ourselves that can affect another person, we can do well to adapt to ourselves and make our spouses or those around us of that nature, the tell tale signs and the consequences of the reaction.

Which brings me to the thought of how many of us wonder each day of why or how so and so situation came to be ? I'm sure after some soul searching and thoughtful reflection on past events one just might come up with some quirks that are unique to us. Wouldn't you like to adapt, if not change the one part of you that Could lead to adverse reactions ? I'm sure that would help you and All those around you in more ways than one. Sure people around us, accept us once they get to know us better but shouldn't you want to know yourself better first ? Think about it . Become aware of what you don't know bout yourself Now.

I just read some insightful blogs about India and our current state as a nation and was reminded of a few lessons that I learned and wanted to share here.

Caste Questions -

We had just come to India after the Gulf war and I had joined school, thanks to the Indian govt's law that any person whose come back due to the war, should be given Immediate admission in any school. Till then I wasn't aware than India was full of Punjabis, Gujratis, Up ites, Goans, Malayalis etc who are very attached to their regional essence and most are automatically drawn to and prefer being with their own community. I was in the Fifth standard, so that would make me 10 or 11. I joined school, quite unsure of myself when during the break someone came up to me and asked me " What are you ?" I replied " Hindu. " She laughed and said, " No, where are you from ? " I was totally aghast. I didn't know what I was ?! That evening I went rushing home and asked my mom what caste we were. She wondered what brought this on and I told her ofcourse. Then she told me, about our " Rajputness " as Singhs and that Dad is from UP and she herself is born and brought up as a Maharastrian. I was quite happy with the answer till it came to telling someone else ( till date I'm amazed as how frequently you are asked this question ) . But since then life has never been the same. Because every time, someone asked me where I was from, I'd say, " I was born and brought up in Kuwait. My mom is a Maharashtrian from Amravati and my dad's from MP, Gwalior . No, it's not a love marriage. ( the next obvious question ) And we are now basically settled in Bhopal. " In time it's become more difficult as I have added another city to my graduation and another to where my husband is from. So, basically now when anyone asks, I start of with " I'm a cocktail . " And move on from there, if the person is actually interested. Their reaction says a lot about Our future as acquaintances. Though that does mean I could never actually belong to any community or organization, but Hey ! it's a great conversation starter and I get equally interesting stories in return !!

Men in Orange Clothes -

Another lesson I learned about life in India, was through my Father. He would never give even a Rupee to people begging but would be willing for anyone who would work for it. I believe this is what instilled in me the desire to earn what I desired. Though he never left us wanting for anything, I always admired him and mom for always putting in that extra effort for the home, which of course in turn made where they chose to give their money mean more. A memory stands out here, when I was playing in our compound and I saw a man in orange clothes ask dad for money in the name of God. My father offered him an hour's work in return for Rs. 20. The man acted wondrously affronted and refused. Dad assured him, there was no insult involved and just needed some help . The man just walked off in a huff. Even at that age, I remember thinking if that man's really collecting for God, then what's wrong with working for it? With other similar experiences like rigged wires in auto rickshaws, people demanding more than they deserved, the use of the name of Bhagwan, Allah I came to the conclusion that people would rather beg, steal and scam in the name of whatever they can use, than earn their keep. I still wonder what makes people believe that they are entitled to someone else's hard earned money ?

Whenever I walk down the road, I don't know why sometimes I get into the rhythm of placing a foot in each block. As always, there just before the pavement ends, etched into the cement is the another sempiternal question , " What is LIfe ? ". I'm not even going to try to pen down my thoughts about this one.

It's just that something so miniscule in comparison to the apartment buildings around it, is such a mystery. It always amuses me that someone thought to scratch a few words into the wet mixture, just before it set enough to bear the wear and tear of a million feet walking over it day in and day out. I wonder also, how many people actually notice the tiny lettering. Do they mull over this graffiti or wonder what lies ahead or get pensive about the past ? There has to be some reaction, right? Wonder if the person who made this scribbling, young-old, male-female, did it with some thought or on a fantastic whim. I only wish I were that impromptu in my actions. Leaving my mark places I've been. Touching the lives of people I'll never meet or know....

I JUST saw the movie and am positively ecstatic. My heart is racing a hundred miles an hour and my fingers are shaking. So, I did the only thing I could think of doing at 12.26 am. I sat at my laptop to blog. I added the videos to my orkut and changed my status on the gmail, yahoo and facebook and now am wondering how to put into words what I'm feeling after ... a realllly long time ...

You remember the time, when you were innocent, not aware of what the world really holds and had magical dreams of what love would be like? Just knowing that something , someone is there for you whose going to Just meet you one fine day and turn your world upside down or right side up, whatever you needed. I don't remember when all of that changed but I do remember the feeling I used to have. The tingles in my fingers, the sound of my heartbeat, the soft touch the breeze, the sight of the moon that brought to me the faith that I am meant to be with someone and that Life will mean something....

Sure, time changes things. We all come down to earth and lives become practical. I luckily found the one person meant for me, but I'm sorry to say that in the chores of every day life, the Magic of romance doesn't hold fort often enough. I take great comfort and find immense joy every moment knowing that I'm loved and cherished. And I even got quite a few of the answers I was searching for. Life could be a little more right side up, but I'm working on that, and I think I might get there sooner than later. Yet, some days I just feel that there's a part of me that's looking for something. A part of me wants to go out and find the one piece of the puzzle that will finally complete this picture. Maybe, it's motherhood or the completion of my dreams. I am not very sure. I do get impatient at times and try looking for the culmination in the beauty around me like the sky, people, the beauty in the crevices, the smile or hug my husband bestows on me . But then, isn't that's what magical about life ?? The anticipation of waiting for something, specially when you're not even sure what or where it is ... ?? Have you ever felt that you were meant for something ? That there was something you were yet to do or achieve ? That there is a metaphorical mountain out there with your name on it, waiting for you to come to it's base and climb to the summit ?

The movie might not be as Fantabulous for some. It's quite predictable and you know how it's going to end. I know some people find that boring. But the it's a journey. Ooof ! That's something to talk about. The emotions, the flow, the expressions, the lyrics and the compositions. That's sure worth talking about. It's just beautifully woven together leaving you breathless and fascinated with what comes next, specially if you are really listening to the music. I believe it is for every romantic out there who has music as a part of their lives and wants to believe in the magic of love. Closet romantics, even ;). I keep wondering why this movie has stirred me so. Most of all, I believe it is the sheer elation I see on the face of August, when he does the one thing he's born to do - Play Music. And his faith and relentless drive in achieving the one thing that he wants more than anything else - To Be Found. Maybe that's what I'm looking for. One : A magical faith and belief in the incredible ( that you rarely see in today's day and age ! ). And two : as hard as it is to admit, I think I am searching for the answer to the question He already knew the answer to. What am I meant to do Here before I pass on to worlds unknown ? Pretty difficult one, I know. After all, he's a character in a scripted movie and Me, I'm a person of the actual world, who is still trying to find answers to lost questions. But then I do have this much confidence, Time will tell. Ofcourse, till then : my search continues ...

How many times you say " Oh ! why is this happening to me ? ". Have you ever noticed how many times in our lifetimes we come across people who hurt someone and seem oblivious leaving you hoping that some day they realize their follies and see the light. And while you're busy fretting about what went wrong, a kind shoulder tells you to be patient, that everything will turn out okay.

Which brings us to Karma. Having recently seen a movie and read a book where people have to face their demons, for all the actions they take. And others who suffer through no fault of their own are rewarded with a better life in the future. This got me thinking whether it is really true we see Heaven and Hell in this life time itself or do we carry forward our good deeds and sins. Online karma is almost self explanatory as

"The philosophical explanation of karma can differ slightly between traditions, but the general concept is basically the same. Through the law of karma, the effects of all deeds actively create past, present, and future experiences, thus making one responsible for one's own life, and the pain and joy it brings to him/her and others. The results or 'fruits' of actions are called karma-phala. In religions that incorporate reincarnation, karma extends through one's present life and all past and future lives as well. "

Which brings forth some truth in all the cliches like " Everything happens for a reason. ". The kind of comfort thoughts people dole out to each other in times of crisis. Though I wonder how many of us, actually sit and try to add and subtract our good deeds, rewards, pain and sins and find out which of our actions lead to what consequences. When do we take responsibility for our actions and realize that in part, along with the Big Guy upstairs, we too are co-creators of our destiny.

From experience, twice in life I've found when I've gone above and beyond for someone else, I've been immediately rewarded. Being on the search for a number of reasons myself, I've finally found some of my answers at This point in life. Seeing a few others, I'm still stupefied but I think I can safely say in conclusion people who've been through pain for no fault of theirs, after some adaptations to the lessons they could learn, find their answers in their futures. Others who've hurt others, at some point or other face the same kinda pain or are hurt where it matters most to Them. Then there are a few others who remain stumped by their hard life day in and day out. And few others' who are pretty much living a rosy life. This I attribute to good deeds of past lives spent being saintly or devilishly. Though I yet have to be sold on the whole re incarnation bit because happiness like everything else is relative and open to speculation. In essence, good when hurt gets paid with a greater good and bad when at it's peak later on faces their worst fears. Which proves the theory of karma. Or even Newton's Law, that every action has an equal and opposite reaction.

Which is why my mom always is behind me to do good, no matter what happens. Sometimes I feel her going on and on and feel that she's totally out of sync with this world where there is no good or bad anymore. There are just shades of gray and at times, we need to show someone the shade their standing on. But then again, I've always tried to live by her and Never intentionally hurt anyone, trying always to pacify and care as much as I can. Having many times bitten the dust in the process, when I didn't Know how to fight back, I found that Time played the role of my avenger. Having stood up on my own two feet, facing my fears, grudgingly learning the lessons life dealt out, I found that sometimes it's just better to go with the flow. Now I think I've almost found the balance between letting go and standing up for what I hold dear. I am aware that I still have a long way to go.

Which is why I'm no one to preach on others' actions (Though I am judgmental to a fault) . We can only try and understand others' intentions and motivations and hope that they are good. But maybe, just maybe if we all just stopped once in a while and took stock of our life and our unanswered questions, we'd realize the bigger picture is worth looking at. For it would surely bring us to Exactly to This point, which has us all to appreciating what we have, had or yet desire.

All said and done, I just find the thought comforting that at the end of the day, for all of us there is a weighing scale somewhere, somehow balancing everything out !!

Of all the definitions of Education I've come across I think I like " an instructive or enlightening experience. " Still, I'd like to amend that to " an instructive AND enlightening experience. " An experience that fulfils the meaning of the word itself in totality.

We each have dreams we'd like our children to fulfill. On top of our expectations that are based on the belief that our children are the best and thus deserve the best in order to become the Best. And we push and prod and pressure their little minds to absorb all they can, as a sponge would water. There are too kind of people, I believe. Those who expect too much of their children and those who expect too little. Why isn't it that we can find a median to these lavish prospects ?

In India, the emphasis is solely on the what the books hold. Marks are compared in .01 % and coming first is the ultimate goal. Being a doctor, engineer or CA are the only viable career choices and if anything else is even considered, it's a cardinal sin. In today's age with the cropping up of call centres and people wanting to find themselves, we find many a person leaving the fields their parents chose in order to walk down paths their destiny might lead them. In contrast, with all the options available in the US, in Every field possible, Rounding off your credits with useless subjects just so that you can make the final cut is a burden each student must carry. No matter what they do, but Harvard and Yale are the ever elusive Holy Grail.

Why isn't it that among these cultures and thought processes, it's not thought of to let a child have a thorough knowledge of the basics and then grow to be whatever their talent makes of them ? Sure there is an uncertainty in this, but isn't it important that each child find happiness ? I really admire parents in India who base a basic importance on graduation in a select field and they allow them to follow their own paths. That's the least they can do considering the competetiveness in every aspects of our lives. In today's cut throat condition, it's important to give the child a well rounded learning experience that teaches them all about the world and the moral values that make it what it is. They need to be taught at an early age that life has more to it that their own selves. The world needs bright, loving, sensitive children who grow up to work towards a better tomorrow.

For anyone who feels that the education system really needs some sort of a revolution, the movie " The Ron Clark Story " is a must see. Today's children who grow up way too fast, need nurturing in a way that rounds off their character, instructs them on the ways of life, gives them knowledge that will help them understand the world around them better AND cultivate the talents they are born with. Going to school ought to be fun and a learning experiance that stays with you for life. Not just cram up ur lessons to vomit and forget the day after the exam. All children are naturally intelligent with a natural born curiosity about the world around them. Their education and environment can make them whatever they desire to be. But there is no harm in making that path of enlightenment full of smiles, giggles and laugher.

I read my friend's blog about what love means to her. I thought about it and finally decided that there's just too much I feel about IT to put down in words. Also, I for one believe, Love carries different meaning to each of us. It can only be explained when you are so immersed in it that it's hard to breathe. Each one has their own definition. Finding your kind of love is hard to do but when you do, Nothing can compare to the sheer joy it brings to your world making it devoid of all it's darkness. I can never be presumptuous to explain love to another. It would be an endless discussion with no solid conclusion. So, I took a page out of someone else's book and found a few words that support my version of love.

But before that I'd like to at least have a stab at describing this mysterious phenomenon. Love to Me is ever lasting. All encompassing. Love to me is having someone to depend on and hold onto no matter what. It's what makes each day worth living knowing you have someone who cares for you and your every need, thought and desire. Love is loving and being loved for each and every smile, tear, habit, fault, mood or word spoken through every situation or inspite of ( whichever the case might be). In short, being understood and accepted. Love is loving unconditionally, and wanting to bring a smile to that face even if it means playing the fool or compromises. Love is knowing that your heart moves around outside which you need to protect from all every sadness. Love is never giving up. Sure, at times it hurts like a b***** . But that just means that it wasn't meant to be and it's time to move on. For when you find the one who Actually loves you, Nothing and no one can change That. It's like energy flowing from one to another. It may transform in many ways but the love in your heart remains the same. Love is joining your two worlds and making a beautiful world of your own. Love always changes you in unspeakable ways making you a Better person. At times, I have found love to be slightly over rated but then that's excusable since Love is what makes the world go round and in the end, love is all there is.

And here to drive the point home are a few tid bits courtesy ThinkExist -

“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.”

“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.”

“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.”

“When you smiled you had my undivided attention. When you laughed you had my urge to laugh with you. When you cried you had my urge to hold you. When you said you loved me, you had my heart forever.”

“I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”


“Every man is afraid of something. That's how you know he's in love with you; when he is afraid of losing you.”


“There are four questions of value in life... What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.”

“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.”

“Love is not blind; it simply enables one to see things others fail to see.”

“Love is saying 'I feel differently' instead of 'You're wrong.'”

“True Love burns the brightest, But the brightest flames leave the deepest scars.”

“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.”

“Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.”

“There is no difference between a wise man and a fool when they fall in love.”

“To love is find pleasure in the happiness of the person loved.”

“There are more people who wish to be loved than there are who are willing to love.”

“When we are in love we seem to ourselves quite different from what we were before.”

“Where there is love there is no sin.”

“Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal.”

“Love doesn't grow on trees like apples in Eden - it's something you have to make. And you must use your imagination too.”

So, what does love mean to You ??

Just saw the " The Dark Knight " and found it in one word " Mind blowing ". Everything in this movie sets a new bar for action movies all around. Be it the stunts, the action, the dialogues, the acting or Joker's antics ( which is a class apart ! ). I above all, was intrigued by the moral dilemmas faced by each character and the choices they made. Choices that sometimes, left to time and chance turned into something totally different than expected.

The subtle theme of the movie, that questions the morality of man kind is really something worth pondering over. I have seen in people the changes time brings about in one and all. Changes that come from their personal experiences, making them slightly bitter, a little stronger and a lot more cynical. They conveniently forget that sometimes it is their own choices, that bring them to the juncture where they feel that they have been wronged and deserve better. When it's their own time, they lie, cheat, steal, or at the least just set their priority compasses facing their own personal desires. But when the time comes to reach the destination that course set for them, they balk, wondering where the other path might have taken them. Always wanting more and something else.

The world is full of grays at this point of time. People choose to believe whatever they feel is most rosy at a given point. As soon as the situation gets uncomfortable, they turn their heads in another direction. Never giving a thought to others' feelings is just a way to get ahead in the rat race. Putting yourself in another's shoes has just become a phrase long forgotten. More likely, one tries to pull the rug from under those very shoes in any way. Proving yourself superior, undermining another, getting whatever our little heart's desires at whatever the cost. These are the mantras of today. Thus we find, people turning their heads away from catastrophes and helping out another in their time of need. Pushing someone when they are down, is an even better option in comparison.

Yet, we have people talking about truth and justice and the difference between right and wrong. Moral science is left behind in the class rooms where our innocence got left behind. How will we teach the children of tomorrow what is right and wrong when we, ourselves doubt our every choice at every step ? Why is it that morality and goodness come into play only when it is convenient for us ? Why is it that as soon as the plans we've dreamt up for ourselves start turning sour, we prefer turning bitter than learning from it ? Why can't we all just have faith in the goodness of others ? Why is the age of innocence diminishing every year ? And when it boils down to it, can we be trusted to do the right thing ?

This movie dealt with some serious issues through the words of a psychotic madman who enjoys inflicting pain in others to see how much they can take before they turn evil. Truly metaphorical. Have you ever wondered about how much you could take ? Or what changes you have undergone through time ? In spite of all the cynicism and hatred in the world, I would like to believe that there is always love to bring out the truth and goodness out of all the muddy grays there are in our every day lives and in us. Just loved the Joker and his twisted view that makes one think twice and was grateful for hopeful faith that Batman had in mankind. Truly touching.