Author: Adisha
•Saturday, May 23, 2009
Jumping around, on top of, below, falling all over each other. Drinking so much that either you pass out and have to be carried home or you are so pumped, you have no idea what you're doing. Grinding against each other in twos and threes. Dancing to Britney Spears music, acting too much like a pretzel, naughty girl, for a guy. Dressing in handkerchiefs that are almost see through, hoping to catch someone's eye and then pulling the dress up or down in a useless effort to cover what needs to be covered. Guys ogling, equally shamelessly in a vain desire that they will " connect " with someone enough to get a number. Gals making lewd gestures to guys & other gals making it a part of their dance to grant deniability. Couples as good as making out in the middle of a room full of people, breaking their shoes, tearing at each others clothes in the process.

Yeah, I had the pleasure of spending a few hours at a club yesterday. The pictures I have in my mind of all the above are gifts that will keep on giving. I ain't no prude. I've been to enough dances, discos, pubs and clubs but it's always amusing what people do think that no one's watching, though inside they are just dying to get everyone's attention. I mean, surely a guy acting like " Britney " is a cry for attention ??!!!

Whatever happened to " moderation " & " respectability - yours and others " ? They say, hey !! I need to let lose, get away from my tensions, need a break. Heard it all! Everyone has problems but do you really need to be out of your mind , to feel liberated ? I really wondered if any of those people actually enjoy themselves in the real sense, for what about later when they remember / realize what all happened the night before ?? I would think a few honest to goodness moves and laughs would work just as well at being called " FUN" , maybe even better. Then again, I'm very well aware of those out there who Cannot be convinced to pace themselves. They just have to get that elusive " Kick " such that it keeps on KICKING !!! :p

I for one, had an unadulterated, fantastical time. A " few " drinks. chuckles shared with friends, awesome music, rocking the dance floor with my sweetheart, fully clothed gave the same feelings of elation as all the above.

When did Partying become acting like an idiot to feel better about the sulkiness of life ?? The dictionary says, it's social gathering especially for pleasure or amusement , not an excuse for indecent behavior. Definitely not a pre requisite. But then, the rate at which the society seems to be deteriorating, this is Just the tip of the ice berg. It's a fad now, to go clubbing and seem hip so on the show goes ...

For me, the greatest highs come from any of my guilty pleasures - Dancing, Music, Rain, Long Drives, New cuisine, Books, Friends, Laughter, Movies, Long winded talks, A new experience, Romance etc etc. If a day includes one or more of the above, is a gleeful day for me. Those days my husband has often commented about how I act light headed even though I didn't have anything :)) And then I tell him, " See ?? You don't need to get High to get HIGH !!!! " :)

What is your path for achieving euphoria ??
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28 Spin Offs:

On May 24, 2009 at 2:39 AM , C R D said...

hehe. this is precisely why i avoid parties. ive been to a pub just once, tht too on my frnd's insistence. Did nothing much, jus sat there like a schizo not knowing what to do :P

Same reason for not being to any concert so far, even though im a die-hard heavy metal fan. I'd rather be with 'Friends only' or spend my time alone.

Some People wud do anything to look cool. They call it "LIVING LIFE KINGSIZE" :P


On May 24, 2009 at 4:21 AM , nups said...

i guess ur night out was more fun watching the jokers around u.... i knw wat u mean... i wonder why people pay a bomb to eventually end up puking...... wat fun is that .. they r so stoned most of them that u actually feel like giving them a good shake n asking wat the hell r they upto...u cant have "fun " when u r so pasted ....
hmmm.... i totally agree with ur idea of being high without actually being high :) i guess we r blessed to be able to do that :)
P.S : read ur comment n replied in ur previous post...

On May 24, 2009 at 5:42 AM , Netika Lumb said...

Same here.. I have never understoof the concept of Letting lose, especially if it's at the cost of control on myself. I'd rather indulge in something like a good book, nice lunch, good company, a nice conversation et al. that's pretty much my idea of FUN and enjoyment :)

On May 24, 2009 at 6:22 AM , akanksha said...

Well, I agree to one and all u mentioned there!

There is a level of decency that is expected out of each of us when in a social gathering;I really don't have any idea what makes people cross the line.

Take care dear...Keep smiling :)

On May 24, 2009 at 8:00 AM , Appy said...

I totally second you on that! For most people, fun is more about showing-off than about how it makes you feel from within. For me, its a long drive at night with somebody I enjoy talking to, a nice long heart-to-heart conversation, laughter and a couple of cups of coffee!

On May 24, 2009 at 8:50 AM , "Su" said...

Nice description....It makes u feel as if u r in it!

On May 24, 2009 at 9:38 PM , Archana said...

Haha well described. :) I personally love night-life, I think going out to bars and clubs with friends is a great time. But like you rightly pointed out, everything in moderation. I can't stand when people have had one too many drinks and start acting so incredibly stupid, slurring their words, spilling their drinks, falling over....ending their night puking. AH why? I don't see how that's all that fun, or those that wake up the next morning (hopefully in their own bed) and look around confused as to what happened the night before.

I think what makes me feel the most euphoric is being out with friends traveling. I absolutely love the rush you get from all staying in the same hotel, running around being silly, taking fun vacation pictures, and exploring new places and cuisine together. :) I'm all for the "wining & dining while traveling with friends" euphoria, heh.

On May 25, 2009 at 2:12 AM , Kunjal said...

very true sometimes people go beyond limits on the name of enjoying:)

On May 25, 2009 at 6:53 AM , Chriz said...

my party idea

lying down on the couch..
remote control


the dog running around the house...

and i havent been to the kinda party you were talking abt in the last one year..

On May 25, 2009 at 12:53 PM , Stillness Speaks said...

How true Adisha!! Morals seem to be deteriorating. It seems it all happened overnight. People like these, like you said are crying for attention. For someone to notice them. For someone to like and love them. It it takes shock value to get them that, they will stoop to any level to do it. It's so sad really. Reminds me of this line from a famous movie "Bachpan mein zor da chaanta laga hota.." :D

What they have to realize is that pulsating music and intoxicants shall not give them any happiness. These might be like pain killers. But until the root of the problems is tackled, the pain will keep resurfacing!

On May 25, 2009 at 2:18 PM , Sushant said...

Humans by their nature need attention and when normal things don't work people don't mind grabbing attention by negative means. Being indecent in a public gathering is just one of the examples. People feel they are a rebel against this society and its rules as it is not doing justice to them. Deep down I feel sorry for them as they don't know what they are parting with just to have some eyeballs rolling

On May 25, 2009 at 10:11 PM , Keshi said...

I so agree!

**When did Partying become acting like an idiot to feel better about the sulkiness of life

very well-said!

I go to parties, I drink n dance too, but I stick to the keyowrd very well. MODERATION.

Some ppl lose control at the risk of looking like total idiots. It's not cool to be an idiot!


On May 25, 2009 at 11:34 PM , Zainab Dhanji said...

well looks like everyone is agreeing here so i am totally going to be the odd one out, but still i guess i will stick to mentioning my views about it.

For me, pleasure is a relative term; you may seek it in totally different stuff from the other. Is it necessary for those people to be bad and immoral who acquire there pleasure out of loosing the compactness of their minds and bodies? Seeing them as attention grabbers is one aspect, others may see them as girls being girls or guys being guys. I do not propagate being shameless and weird. However i do believe that people have different ways of gaining pleasure (which others should not restrict) and different ways to make themselves get the “feel” that they have enjoyed. Its in the state of mind, people would rather spend more dimes to get to a place that satisfies their cognition and pre-conceived notions of having fun... Anyway I also believe that people will always have some stuff to say about you.. If u enjoy in a party hard enuf, you'll be talked about and if u don’t then as well you'll be labeled as a shy chicken or a party spoiler. Point is live and let live. Why invade others right to be the way they want to be unless off course its harming u...

Well that’s just a point of view, no offence... and just for the record, I’ve never got drunk or went to a club etc so not a personal attack here, just a view =)


On May 26, 2009 at 9:11 AM , Adisha said...

@ Zainab - Thank you for visiting. And for your views. I totally agree with you in everythign you have said. Pleasure is a relative term and to each his own.

But, yeah, there is a but :D - it's only natural for one to get judgmental when you see the concepts of morality deteriorating day by day. Here I haven't talked for the sake of talking dear. All I state is that in every situation " moderation " should be kept in mind. For when you party too hard, it's heart breaking to see a friend puking their guts out, or crying from a horrid hang over later or someone saying hurtful things or taking advantage of someone's vulnerability. In extreme cases, people tend do things and have No memory of what happened the night before and that too has dire consequences. Thus when people act that way, what comes to My mind is what is this behavior going to lead to later in the night. And THAT is what worries me. For later, those same people who are so GUNG HO about having fun, are not ready to face the consequences... That time there's no live and let live for them , coz someone or the other always gets hurt one way or another !!

Else everyone loves a good laugh !!! I too hadn't intended to make personal attacks on anyone. Just commenting on how bad thigns are getting today when people aren't willing to take responsibility in their actions- before and after. In a club u'll see only a TINY percentage of the the people will be behaving like there's no tomorrow and those exact same percentage will Definitely be sorry for everything that happened.

As for people who are talked about for being party poopers, I'd say better safe than sorry. Better people talking about you for not doing anything, than becoming tomorrow's news for something that you Have done !!! :)

Keep visiting !! It's always great to hear another point of view. When you put forth ur comment, I was just wondering how come no one gave a counter view. Just didn't expect it from a person whose doesn't drink at all !! :))

On May 26, 2009 at 9:24 AM , Adisha said...

@ Keshi - So not cool !! :)

@ Sushant - That's so true ... The people wanting to be rebellious for the sake of being different and attract attention.

@ Stillness Speaks - Hahahaha. Bachpan mein zorr ka ... hehehe. So very true !! I for one am thankful for all the chaantas I got when I was young. :D

@ Chiz - Yeah , I can imagine :) I haven't danced like that in almost 2 years. So miss just dancing ...

@ Kunjal - That's all I say - Keep moderation in mind !

@ Archana - Keep rocking gurl !! Wish you more smiles :)

@ Su - Glad I could achieve that effect. Thank you for noticing.

On May 26, 2009 at 9:30 AM , Adisha said...

@ Appy - Long drives aaaaah !!!

@ Akanksha - I guess it's how the other spin offs have mentioned. It's a cry for attention to be different from the others, to connect with someone, anyone !!

@ Nekita - Letting lose is good as long as you know what you are actually doing.

@ Nups - Yeah, they sure made the night lively :))

@ CRD - hehehe, That's what happened whenever I've gone to pubs earlier. But when you are with people you can trust, it's good fun too !!! Living life King Size .. hahahaha... They wish ...

On May 26, 2009 at 1:21 PM , mohitparikh said...

well i might not share ur views on degrading values but sure, U DONT NEED TO GET HIGH TO BE ON A HIGH.
well said.
my euporia: Observing Nature and feeling u r one with it.

On May 26, 2009 at 10:44 PM , Hemanth Potluri said...

wow i missed 6 posts that to they are so lengthy :P....well i read them all :)...yeah u did a tag the 100 truths one...u should have checked mine also :P...its titled 100 :P..and previous post of "belong"i have something special in mind for that :)....

coming to this party idea is bring all friends to my home ..put up my wii or xbox and have bets on games and drink coke and eat pizza :)..

been missing so many nice posts :)..


On May 26, 2009 at 11:41 PM , Tabitha said...

Happiness, Joy, Fun...These are feelings that come from within...One ends being really stupid if he/she tries hard to be a WANNA BE...Nice Post..You ve made a point !!!

On May 27, 2009 at 5:46 AM , Ekta said...

Well for me..its dancing all the way!
But strangely even when am in a pub i prefer dancing alone or with very selected 1-2 friends who dance the way I do:-))
So i agree...dancing for such a waste of good music..!

On May 27, 2009 at 1:40 PM , Anonymous said...

im in love with the last turn of phrase-" u dont need ta get high to get high"
people act like complete losers[read it not all] n thtz the reason im called a party pooper cuz i dnt njoy the second hand smoke,those painted faces in ultra short outfits n oodles of alcohol!i find it pointless partying jut for the heck of it or just tht u need ta get high!
insane insaans!!! duh!!
cut the crap-----
le !! sab log ek jaise kaise ho sakthe?

get the point- all controversies end!
* peace* :D

On May 28, 2009 at 10:30 AM , Cursed♪♫ said...

Hey !!
So sorry I haven't been around. I'm just so busy with my studies. Will cover up for everything :)
Hope you're good. Take care!

On May 29, 2009 at 8:26 AM , Shruti Mukundan said...

hee hee.. had a g8 time laughing... u described the scenario so damn brilliantly.. couldnt stop laughing.. i have never been to disco's but guess if i get to got thr, wil refer back to this post of urs before leaving.. isnt it a fancy that al thos ppl who did all such joker acts, wont even remb how they behaved n sum other they when they themself see others doing like that, they will laugh :D

On May 29, 2009 at 11:27 AM , Alishah said...

Real nice post and blog

This comment is to let you know that i have follow your blog and hope you will do the same...

On May 29, 2009 at 11:23 PM , Adisha said...

@ mohitparikh - I'm just glad we agree on something and for what we don't agree on, do share :D Nature is has such a calming effect.

On May 29, 2009 at 11:25 PM , Adisha said...

@ Hemanth - Yes and I have been missing your comments too, specially your da ! :) Will check out " 100 " soon :D hehehe. Awaiting your take on " Belong " .

Nice idea for a party .... When am I invited ?? hehe

Do comment if you have time ...

On May 29, 2009 at 11:26 PM , Adisha said...

@ Ekta - Ooooh , I love dancing. I know the feeling. In hostel, when I was working, during parties, always used to gravitate to my kin of dancers :))

On May 29, 2009 at 11:30 PM , Adisha said...

@ Tabitha - Thank you so much Tabitha !!! :)

@ Charizma - Lol !! Keep to your guns babe. Party but make sure to enjoy every moment ... And you're right - sab ek jaise nahi ho sakte :)) If everyone remembered that each person is unique toh most problems would end. :)

@ CUrsed - It's ok sweetie... I'm right here, waiting ...

@ Shruti - I'm so glad to imagine you laughing. You do that, and if you need more advice remember to contact me before leaving your home too ... lolz.. I remember during hostel days we used to take the freshers to the parties, giving them advice on how to party first !! :)

@ Alishah - Welcome to my blog. Will visit your blog soon ... Keep visiting !!