Author: Adisha
•Monday, August 10, 2009
I love a story that makes me think, that i can relate to, that has me wondering about my life and the people in it. This weekend I came across three such stories. I read Firefly Lane and watched the movies Runaway Bride and Love Aaj Kal. These are some of the random thoughts that flew through my head as I watched the movies smiling at how similar these stories were to life as I know it.


I wondered why it is that people don't know what they want even when it's right in front of them ? All they have to do is reach out and touch it.

Why is it that people don't know the source of their happiness when they have it with them and consequently forget to treasure that source ? What we think makes us happy is usually different from what truly touches our hearts.

Why is it that some people flirt without knowing that they are flirting? Why do they have no consideration of those around them and the subsequent feelings that they are in danger of hurting?


What makes people think that romance is in the lavish shows of affection ? Isn't romance even in the smallest gesture and the shared sly smile ? In the Fun things , just hanging out doing things together ?




How is it that people don't really Know themselves? They go along with whatever others' think they should be like and forget to look into what They need to be alive !

What is it that has people searching for their happiness within others' ?

Who says career is more important than family or vice versa ? Should a person not live their life the way they want to, doing whatever makes them happy ?


If a person were to live the life the way they want to, would they still be left with regrets of what they didn't have ?

Why are people always running behind what they don't have forgetting all that they already have ?

Does being a go getter mean you Have to put yourself and your priorities Over everyone elses' ?

What gives people a right to think they can reach into Your life and rearrange things about, only to have you picking up the pieces of the fiasco later?

No matter how close you are to someone or how close They think they are to you - do they Really understand you?

Why is it that people find it so hard to say they are sorry as soon as they realize they made a mistake ? What's important is to realize, amend and act, not wallow in the pool of your own self pity .

End of the day we are all mango people ( aam janta ) running down the roads of life in search for happiness. In the end, all anyone truly wants is the simplest thing - to be loved and cared for by someone who 'gets' You be it a relative, family , friend or the love of your life ! But for that isn't it important to know who you are, yourself ?





Ok ! These were almost rhetorical questions ... Most importantly I wonder why it is that for most people, nothing is ever enough ?!
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16 Spin Offs:

On August 10, 2009 at 1:38 PM , nups said...

hi Adi
i deletd my post... i read ur comment ... i m mad i dono why on earth i wrote it.... will mail u details....
hey nice post this one :) will give my comments on it in a while......

 
On August 10, 2009 at 8:45 PM , Archana said...

It's pretty sad, but most people are never satisfied with what's on their plates, they always want what's on the next persons. This is just boils down to not living life on your own scale of measure, but rather on society's checklist of on what makes your life worth living - which is usually a checklist of materialistic junk.

Truly satisfied people will notice the people that bring a smile to their face, they will notice what's their source of happiness, they will know how to balance out career & family, and they most definitely will know to appreciate romantic gestures. The people living their heads in the clouds, they're the ones that are always lost because they're blind to day to day life. It's their loss, in my opinion. :P

On a slightly different angle on your flirting question - I've noticed that say the guy has a crush on the girl and the girl is just being friendly, in his mind that gets misinterpreted as flirting. Because he wants to translate her big smile, warm hug and animated conversation into flirting. Because he likes her. Now that same girl, if she did all of the above to a guy who just saw her as a friend, it would be left at just that, friendly behavior. So it's kinda a sticky situation. I'm just saying, because I've learned from experience that by being out-going chances are guys will mistake you. This could be flipped around from a male's P.O.V too.

Though, I do agree that blatant flirtatious behavior and then claiming that you were not flirting...well that's a) stupidity and b) a recipe for disaster.

As always, good list of questions Adisha. And I've written yet another essay, lol.

 
On August 10, 2009 at 9:49 PM , Saurabh said...

nice post :)

btw, i saw Love Aaj Kal, felt that the movie was cool and that my money was well-spent, but apart from that, i didn't think anything more about it!

I guess our modern age of consumerism and instant gratification, is in a way, responsible for all this. But, such problems even existed way before modernism knocked the world's door! SO, i'm a bit confused ;)

 
On August 11, 2009 at 2:57 AM , santasizing...Fantasizing said...

nice post...and i can relate to ur thoughts on love aaj kal an runaway bride..except that for some strange reason i did not like love aaj kal:)
for the book...i have to grab it soonly..
:)

 
On August 11, 2009 at 4:04 AM , Ekta said...

ooooh!!
too many questions...each one will take a lifetime to answer!

 
On August 11, 2009 at 5:46 AM , The Survivor said...

A Man's wants never fulfills.

As one fulfills their wants they move on to another.

So I guess nothing is ever enough for humans :)

 
On August 11, 2009 at 10:36 AM , Baljinder Singh said...

Valid questions my friend....
I think most of the people must have raised the same questions from themselves after watching the movie "love aaj kal" but may have forgot them after a while.
Life always try to make us aware of the real facts but we always make a different way.
So we should try to identify our priorities wisely...

 
On August 11, 2009 at 2:37 PM , Stillness Speaks said...

I've totally fallen in love with the way you put down your thoughts! I've had the same set of questions for a long time. Still looking for answers to most of them :-)

You left me speechless and I've no extra words to add to such an impeccable post :)

 
On August 11, 2009 at 5:41 PM , aritra the daydreamer said...

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On August 12, 2009 at 9:10 AM , jason evans said...

Lots and lots of questions. And no easy answers.

 
On August 12, 2009 at 1:07 PM , akanksha said...

Hi Adisha,
Hope u're doing fine...
Nice post! Quite thought provoking:)

 
On August 12, 2009 at 3:46 PM , ani_aset said...

so many questions haan :)
i would use one answer
"Because it has to :) "
and lets leave it to nature to work the way it is..and you just focus on self and let each individual focus on themselves..and lets all just do our bit
for which we are here :)

 
On August 15, 2009 at 2:22 PM , Tasneem N. said...

Whoa too many questions..these are my thoughts on your questions :

1)Why it is that people don't know what they want even when it's right in front of them ?
->There are too many things that goes in one's life at the same time so they happen to overlook what is right in front of them.

2)Why don't people know the source of happiness?
-> If everyone knew their respective sources of happiness world would be one happy place with no one complaining. Wouldn't that be a boring place to live?I believe happiness in small quarters makes life more interesting.That doesn't mean you have to be sad all the time ;)

3)Why is it that some people flirt without knowing that they are flirting?
->Its in the genes..hahaha.On a more serious note healthy flirting is welcome but too much of it can get onto anyone's nerve.Respect other's feeling and your feelings will be automatically be respected.

4)What makes people think that romance is in the lavish shows of affection ? Isn't romance even in the smallest gesture and the shared sly smile ? In the Fun things , just hanging out doing things together ?
-> I too believe in the same philosophy that you wrote. There may be people who believe in "lavish show of affection". May be they are not wrong.Everyone feel loved in a different manner.

5)How is it that people don't really Know themselves?
->This is the perfect example of ME. It takes time for people to grow. Only when I make my own mistakes will I learn from it and truly know what exactly I am. What are my capabilities and what I feel. But pretending to be someone else or totally following someone else is a strict NO.

6)What is it that has people searching for their happiness within others' ?
->Its love.

7)Who says career is more important than family or vice versa ? Should
a person not live their life the way they want to, doing whatever makes them happy ?
->Yes of course they should. However there are many who are trapped in a pressure and are not able to live life they want to.

8)If a person were to live the life the way they want to, would they still be left with regrets of what they didn't have ?
-> That depends on the person's needs. In fact they should be happy that they got to live the life they wanted to because there aren't many who live their own lives.

9)Does being a go getter mean you Have to put yourself and your priorities Over everyone elses'?
->Only then can that person achieve what he has set out to achieve.We need to be a little patient and understanding in this matter.

10)What gives people a right to think they can reach into Your life and rearrange things about, only to have you picking up the pieces of the fiasco later?
->I wouldn't mind that fiasco if it is for love. If it otherwise do you think I won't be creating a havoc in his life as well?That's mean but that's how its got to be.

11)No matter how close you are to someone or how close They think they are to you - do they Really understand you?
->Its better to stop expecting. Life would be more beautiful if we are atleast able to understand ourself.

While answering all of the above it somehow gave me a self examination of myself.
Good one :)

 
On August 16, 2009 at 9:08 AM , sana said...

heyy ur so ryt!!!!
i am in total agreement with u!
nice blog :)

 
On August 16, 2009 at 9:54 AM , Nahl said...

Oh, great to know Love Aaj Kal made you think too. You can read my thoughts on the same movie at:
www.girlinthebloggingdepartment.blogspot.com

 
On August 17, 2009 at 12:56 PM , Nahl said...

Thankyou. Keep reading and leaving comments. =)