•Monday, August 09, 2010
This is what someone said to me recently - " on our deathbeds will we really know what we were born to do...nice one...hope none of us regret ...it knowing the truth then ... "
I wonder. Why is it that people have a " don't think about it, don't talk about it " attitude towards REGRET. Regrets are a part of life. I have so many of them, where I wish I hadn't done this or said that. Regrets are what teach you what NOT to do later in life. What's important is to know that no matter what happened , you tried your best. You took the most honest path along the way of life and if you didn't, knowing that then it's important to realize that and try to make amends as best as you can.
Yeah, don't obsess over them but yeah, personally I think one should always take time out and atleast try to figure our where one had gone wrong when life takes a turn for the worst or unexpected!!! Don't push all your mistakes under the rug, blaming them on timing, others or whatever else diversions you can think of. Take responsibility for your actions and what You, yourself could have done differently.
And if by my deathbed, I do have regrets I haven't been able to realize or amend ... well, hopefully I live a life such that the Almighty will understand that I would have if I had more time ...
I wonder. Why is it that people have a " don't think about it, don't talk about it " attitude towards REGRET. Regrets are a part of life. I have so many of them, where I wish I hadn't done this or said that. Regrets are what teach you what NOT to do later in life. What's important is to know that no matter what happened , you tried your best. You took the most honest path along the way of life and if you didn't, knowing that then it's important to realize that and try to make amends as best as you can.
Yeah, don't obsess over them but yeah, personally I think one should always take time out and atleast try to figure our where one had gone wrong when life takes a turn for the worst or unexpected!!! Don't push all your mistakes under the rug, blaming them on timing, others or whatever else diversions you can think of. Take responsibility for your actions and what You, yourself could have done differently.
And if by my deathbed, I do have regrets I haven't been able to realize or amend ... well, hopefully I live a life such that the Almighty will understand that I would have if I had more time ...
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7 Spin Offs:
hey that was s8 from heart.. yeah regrets are a part of life and mayb there is nothing to keep brooding about so much.. but still we do.. we brood.. we cry.. we regret and finally move on... prob would have hit a century of regrets when i reach the death bed
I don't think when we are born, we are born for a purpose but to experience life, the good and the bad.
Regrets are part of life, can't do anything about it, if something does not work even after making the effort.
I guess attitude matters a lot in overcoming them.
nice post... yeah Regrets can and do act like stepping stones in life... all the more if one knows that he/she had given 100% and realises what went wrong so that it doesnt repeat
u hv put it correctly....regrets r a part of life...The only thing is one shud try to minimize dem...:)
Nice post...
Who draws the line how much is plain thinking and how much is being obsessed with the past??
Isn't it better to take it as a lesson that made you a better person?
Cliched but true.
here is the thing, regret differs from failure when you know that you could have done your best but you didnt. if you did give it your best, it would just something not gained but not something we would regret because we gave it our all.
Regret is what we feel when we know we messed up, when we knew better but we didnt do it. And its not the easiest thing to accept. We always want to put the blame on others - feel better about ourselves and regret doesnt allow us to do that.
:-)
the thought in ur opening sentence made me ponder a lot
if we realise the true aim of our lives only on the deathbeds..then it is such a pity!
we should regret...look back in life...learn from mistakes and correct ourselves