Author: Adisha
•Friday, November 07, 2008
It's a special day for a close friend of mine. She has many reasons to celebrate this day. And I wish her nothing but the Best in life. Many joys, tears of happiness, silver linings to every cloud and moments that turn into cherished memories...

But it wasn't always like this. We met, grew really close and due to unforeseen and unimaginable circumstances turned into adversaries. And after a long absence, thanks to her many overtures and going deep into the causes and faults of the said rift, we came close once again like a life boat to a lighthouse. Today, though we have lands and oceans between us, we laugh, cry, talk and reminisce about what was and what will be.

Today, as I heard her laugh at my gentle teasing, I wondered about the volatility of human relations. Best friends turn into enemies and adversaries into confidantes. Friends turn into lovers. Lovers into strangers. Strangers into a couple. And a once happily married couple become divorcees. People you like become those whom you cannot stand the sight of. Acquaintances become best of friends, standing by your through thick or thin. Sometimes, bridges get burnt permanently. Other times, we look across at the other side and work towards coming to the middle, together building all that's lost. Of course, all this is not at the drop of a hat. There's a lot happening behind these intricate webs of feelings. A silly misunderstanding, a growing sense dislike, lost self respect, a third party manipulation, memories of good times, expectations, passion, compatibility or lack there of, and then there is the desire to regain what was lost or lose what is pulling you down. Could be just nothing or everything.

But there is something to this whole thing about giving second chances. To a loved one, a friend, family, yourself even. Sure, human nature doesn't essentially change, but over time we can always realize the importance of what was lost and it's never too late to try to make something of it. Every relation and it's absence has a reason, season or rhyme,and it's extent in one's life is Only for the two involved to decide ...

Kudos to those few who get a second chance and make the most of it. For the rest cherish what you have ; or decide where you stand. Cheers to You, My Sweet Friend for bringing yourself back into my LiFe!!!
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6 Spin Offs:

On November 8, 2008 at 1:41 PM , Priya said...

But there is something to this whole thing about giving second chances. To a loved one, a friend, family, yourself even


True true and u said it loud. Love it.

 
On November 10, 2008 at 6:47 AM , dreamy said...

I have wondered so many times about this....although I believe in giving second chances..but what if the person has really hurt you...shattered your trust...
i always wonder what i would do if placed in the same situation...i am not sure..i guess varies from situation to situation and person to person right...

 
On November 10, 2008 at 9:48 AM , Adisha said...

Thanks Priya :D

 
On November 10, 2008 at 9:51 AM , Adisha said...

RIght Dreamy,

Giving second chances itself is very tricky for most of us confuse second chances with taking for granted, which is dangerous. Second chances should be given Only when you are convinced things will be different the second time round. Or if there were some deep misunderstandings and equal fault in the first place. Other than that, for some one whose shattered your trusts should Never be be allowed to demean your self respect ever again. For like I said, human nature doesn't usually change. If they've done it once Chances too exist that they'll do it again. It's up to you to make a choice. That is Why, it's called a CHANCE. :D

 
On November 14, 2008 at 5:22 AM , dreamy said...

yes i know what you mean...but i am talking about situations where your heart says forgive but head says no...what do you do then??

 
On November 14, 2008 at 8:13 AM , Adisha said...

Hey Dreamy,

Every action in any relation is mostly a war between head and heart and what you do as a compromise between the both :D

After all my experiences, I've come to learn it's better to listen to your head than your heart, coz it's your forgiving & kind heart that usually gets u into trouble. :) Like I've said in my next blog. Depends on the number of chances they've already got and the difference they've shown AND their intentions in hurting you. Even unintentionally, if they keep hurting you showing no improvement, trust me gurl they do NOT deserve a second chance...

And then there's the other test, where even after you say ok. Lets give it nother shot !! But something in you throws out HUGE signals saying BE CAREFUL, they DO just that - Be Careful !!!

These are my tried and tested views. I hope they help ... :D