•Monday, November 10, 2008
I thought to put in a few more words elaborating my thoughts about second chances ...
Giving second chances itself is very tricky for most of us confuse second chances and end up getting taken for granted, which is dangerous. Second chances should be given Only when you are convinced things will be different the second time round. Or if there were some deep misunderstandings, third party meddling or equal fault lies with both parties in the first place. Sometimes you just need to look beyond the haze of errors to see the goodness of a person's heart and recognize what you feel for them. Slowly, a step at a time, think about what you are willing to risk by losing or taking the next step.
Other than that, a lot of times people run out of all the chances, big or small that they are given and at some point you just HAVE to put your foot down. Either make your feelings known or back away. Even after knowing your feelings if they continue in the same tone of actions then it's better to let go. For some one who lets you down in every way, should Never be be allowed to demean your self respect ever again. If someone does not respect Your feelings then they do Not deserve to have them in the first place. Indifference and negligence merit nothing but the same.
For like I said before, human nature doesn't usually change. You need to be sure about what happened in the previous incident. In the end it's the Intention that counts. If someone hurts you intentionally, they might just do it again. A person's reasons for hurting you define what they are made of.
At this point, I want to bring up something that often bothers me about human nature. When we see someone behaving wrongly, why is it that we stand by saying nothing, thinking it's not my place for they are " GOOD " to me Now. How does one forget the Now part? As far as my observation goes, a person who treats someone else badly will surely do the same to you at one point or another. Then why is it that later we wonder, why did they act like that with me ?! Most people just aren't aware of the wrongs they do per day, which is why we all need a human compass in our life to let us know the right direction. Then there are those who just don't care, rising above the situation but how can anyone stand by seeing people make wrong choices. If only people chose to do the right thing, and stood by whatever we believed in the world would be a better place. This holds true for more than one situation.
As for second chances, important as it is to make an informed decision it's up to each person and situation. In any case, a stand should be taken depending on what you believe in. One never knows what tomorrow holds. That is Why, it's called a CHANCE.
Giving second chances itself is very tricky for most of us confuse second chances and end up getting taken for granted, which is dangerous. Second chances should be given Only when you are convinced things will be different the second time round. Or if there were some deep misunderstandings, third party meddling or equal fault lies with both parties in the first place. Sometimes you just need to look beyond the haze of errors to see the goodness of a person's heart and recognize what you feel for them. Slowly, a step at a time, think about what you are willing to risk by losing or taking the next step.
Other than that, a lot of times people run out of all the chances, big or small that they are given and at some point you just HAVE to put your foot down. Either make your feelings known or back away. Even after knowing your feelings if they continue in the same tone of actions then it's better to let go. For some one who lets you down in every way, should Never be be allowed to demean your self respect ever again. If someone does not respect Your feelings then they do Not deserve to have them in the first place. Indifference and negligence merit nothing but the same.
For like I said before, human nature doesn't usually change. You need to be sure about what happened in the previous incident. In the end it's the Intention that counts. If someone hurts you intentionally, they might just do it again. A person's reasons for hurting you define what they are made of.
At this point, I want to bring up something that often bothers me about human nature. When we see someone behaving wrongly, why is it that we stand by saying nothing, thinking it's not my place for they are " GOOD " to me Now. How does one forget the Now part? As far as my observation goes, a person who treats someone else badly will surely do the same to you at one point or another. Then why is it that later we wonder, why did they act like that with me ?! Most people just aren't aware of the wrongs they do per day, which is why we all need a human compass in our life to let us know the right direction. Then there are those who just don't care, rising above the situation but how can anyone stand by seeing people make wrong choices. If only people chose to do the right thing, and stood by whatever we believed in the world would be a better place. This holds true for more than one situation.
As for second chances, important as it is to make an informed decision it's up to each person and situation. In any case, a stand should be taken depending on what you believe in. One never knows what tomorrow holds. That is Why, it's called a CHANCE.
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Hi Dear,
Sorry for reply you so late..
Hmm, second chance is very subjective and it mostly depends on situation and relation we had with particular person..
I go through you story time blog also, that was also captured with beautiful words..
Take care
Mona
Chances it is...
very well written adisha, it indeed is upto us and our situations to decide if we shud be takin that so called "CHANCE"
likes the way u have put it :)
hmmm yea i get what you mean.....esp the last line....one can never be sure thats why its a chance....you just have to think it out before taking the step... :)
You can do anything you put your mind too, just gotta make that first step and let go of fear mainly... second chances can be described under my motto as well... I think a lot of times ppl don't realize they have second opportunities, as they often fear letting go of their normal surroundings. Great post and thanks for stopping in... funny thing is I had actually thought to headline that entry you wrote on with Muse's song Bliss, kewl...
Very good post Adisha!
I always believed in giving myself AND others a 2nd chance. I even wrote a post abt it on my blog...but only very few agreed with me. Cos alot of ppl dunno wut Forgiving urself and others is.
Keshi.