tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post8022058430999878219..comments2023-06-03T04:27:12.533-04:00Comments on Kaleidoscopic Visions: Excuses and LoveAdishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-63580179826662893802009-08-10T15:30:59.874-04:002009-08-10T15:30:59.874-04:00@ Orange - Thank you so much for visiting and your...@ Orange - Thank you so much for visiting and your compliments.<br /><br />Well, you are right in a way. Marriage is about love, but it's more about finding someone whose right for You. You cannot just be attracted to someone and expect everything to fall magically into place. While you two are having fun and seeing where it goes, you need to keep in mind what you truly want from your partner and if the person you are currently with seems capable of fulfilling your needs/ desires.<br /><br />I personally don't believe in soulmates. Nor even that there's someone special made specaill yfor you. <br /><br />There are a few people with whom you are truly compatible with and those are the people who are Right for you. Love is not about finding the right person but about finding a person and making sure you are right for them and they for you. I believe marriage is a union of two people who commit to each other and work on it every single day of their life. <br /><br />IT's true there are people otu there for whom marriage doesn't seem to work but unfortunately these are people who made the wrong choice and then realize they jsut want different things from life and each other. One thing you need to realize when u're dating, you wont' be able to change anything about the person so u better to willing to work with what you have. Many other times, one of the two lets ego or their own desires come before their relation. Other times, they just aren't willing to move on, thinking marriage just sucks so might as well with this person. <br /><br />Marriage to the Right kind of person is what brings forth happiness forever. it's not marriage but Love is overrated. Marriage on the other hand is a commitment that is not just about love, but about respect, caring, loyalty, romance, laughter and much more. <br /><br />I can understand you being scared about marriage but it's basically a gamble. As in gambling, if you do it carefully and with lots of thought , you will surely win and hit the Jack pot !!!!!!! <br /><br />Don't lose heart. There's someone out there whose perfect for you ...<br /><br />Hope you find what u're looking for :DAdishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-83772629409092488602009-08-10T15:01:35.732-04:002009-08-10T15:01:35.732-04:00i have always believed in love but recently a few ...i have always believed in love but recently a few things here and there have made me question this old belief of mine ..<br /><br />see, for me ..the relationships i have now are just for fun ..fun in the sense ..u like this person, u enjoy his company ..so yeah ..u guys like each other ..so u just hook up and see where it goes. every person enters ur life to teach u something new.<br />but when it comes to marriage ..i dont believe in sacrificing. i think i LOVE is very important in a marriage. i will (atleast plan to) marry the guy i love and no one else. <br />but if love exists ..why doesnt everyone meet their soulmate? is it because they didnt try hard? or were they just unlucky? <br />isnt someone special made for everybody?<br /><br />i've seen so many married couples around ..and i know they arent happy ..<br />and that makes me sad. it makes me not want to marry. im afraid we might just fall out of love or something. <br /><br />one thing's for sure, marriage is highly overrated i feel ..<br /><br />p.s: i doubt ull read this ..i commented on it after a long time. i hope u do :)<br />btw, awesome blog. i loveeee :)oRange*https://www.blogger.com/profile/03239294667530000687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-39234722515094510202009-06-13T02:47:19.232-04:002009-06-13T02:47:19.232-04:00wonderful post.
I appreciate your thoughts.
such t...wonderful post.<br />I appreciate your thoughts.<br />such thoughts do cross our mind..but past paced world kills that fun.<br />nice post you have come up with.<br />keep em commingSorcererhttp://www.evilsfury.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-67205382746739683182009-06-05T15:04:04.463-04:002009-06-05T15:04:04.463-04:00Adisha…this ws simply a brilliant post!! How cud I...Adisha…this ws simply a brilliant post!! How cud I miss dis blog of urs!!<br />Love is actually so simple…its our mind that makes it so complicated… n we tend to go to any extent 4 our love…forgettin everything..even ourselves…. n if it doesn’t happen…den wht follows is pain n sufferin n regrets… but d fact remains that if its actually love from both sides…it wont hurt ever…. <br />And I agree it also means ur loved one being happy even if u cant be wid them…. the realisation dawns later many a times…but it does if u love someone truly….<br /><br />Love can nvr hurt…it alwys makes everything easier…. <br /><br />Whtever u wrote made sense!! Though many a times its tough to get back…. But u do have to… dont know how... but u have to try..<br /> <br />Loved this post a lot…u r so much practical n sensible I must say! Keep sharing ur experiences….!!<br />Hugs for this one! :)Bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09147613880425913045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-46634579872288219442009-06-04T12:03:53.115-04:002009-06-04T12:03:53.115-04:00@ Shruti - I can understand ... Even while writing...@ Shruti - I can understand ... Even while writing I felt it was horrendously Long... :)<br /><br />Your honesty, as always is thoroughly appreciated and my heart goes out to you. I can truly understand what you're talking about and I sympathize. I can only hope that in time, you see the light and meet someone truly deserving of the love you have to share. I know it's all easier said than done, and sad truth is each one has to go through their own mazes before finding the end. My only aim through this post is to let people be aware of the signs that what's happening with them is common enough and definitely not ok !! I didn't mean to hurt anyone, but I Know for a fact if only I had someone to guide Me, I would have been in a much better place today. Its really sad that many a times in love, we idolize the one we love, even when they are not really deserving of the pedestal. But that's only proof that we love completely. Which is not too bad !! You Should be proud of yourself of being so loving. Trust me, it's just His loss ... but maybe , just maybe it's time to move on ??!! Well, All in it's good time. I'll pray for u to find peace and love ...Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-66214258686134461322009-06-04T10:21:46.784-04:002009-06-04T10:21:46.784-04:00perhaps... one of ur longest works!! i felt exhaus...perhaps... one of ur longest works!! i felt exhausted at the end so didn't really felt like going thru 39 comments!! <br /><br />lemme just giv mine... u knw wat, its a controversial post after all but i loved ur honesty... but then truly speaking for each sentence i heard a voice from my heart which said "so easy to say" yeah its so easy to say all these things which r just not ok.. at times i get mad n feel really bad coz at sum point of time, i realise that i have fallen for the guy who has done almost all of ut 'not ok' things n i know they r not ok..!!<br /><br />fiction.. unrealistic... hurtful.. watever... they r my memories n i cherish them! i know at times those acts r stupid.. like mine liking a guy since i had known wat 'liking a guy' means... n truly with all my honesty.. prob he is the only person i have ever wanted for myself... we r in touch n i could get my guts together to let him know my feelings a few months back.. check out 'thanksgiving' in my blog... that was a post dedicated to him... but then he is spl.. even though he doesnt care for me so much.. i know... but i keep telling myself one day.... stupidity.. foolishness.. watever... am waiting.. n i dont regret the wait... i feel proud of my honesty n sincerity towards him even though i know veryy well he doesnt deserve any of those.. but still... ur post kindled all my hidden feelings!! girl!! am overwhelmed by this post of urs!!!Shruti Narayananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00319875014367225609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-89006517451409455602009-06-04T09:18:42.996-04:002009-06-04T09:18:42.996-04:00@ Arun - Very well put !!! :) Appreciate your poin...@ Arun - Very well put !!! :) Appreciate your points ... and yeah, if you know All of this, some girl out there, will surely find her way to you when you're ready ie.. :)Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-26628198356187360942009-06-04T07:31:44.187-04:002009-06-04T07:31:44.187-04:00Before I could think that it was idealistic you sa...Before I could think that it was idealistic you said that “As I say all of this I know it's all pointless.” I could not agree with you more. I think more important than falling in love is to call it off when you know that it is simply not going the way you want and that you deserve something else now.<br />Yeah, no love is unique. The faster you wake up to the fact the better it is for the fallen in love ones.<br />They say love is more about understanding and all that, but actually none understands. If people understood there would not have been so many issues. What everyone needs to know is that human being by nature is selfish and hold on, selfishness is not a negative feature, we have been taught that being selfish is bad and that one should compromise sometimes. Why? <br /> I think you contradicted yourself or probably its more of an agreement that like all things, love can not be perfect, although it can be improved upon continuously towards a hypothetical level of perfection. You spoke of loving yourself as being important and then asked not to brush off others wishes, but what if my priorities are more important to me and that might involve overriding what my partner would want me to do.<br />Yeah it is all good and merry when you are in love but beware! You lose your identity too if you become blind. You end up being for each other and forget that there is world beyond that is much more important. I honestly find it hard sometimes when I see people disregarding what their priorities are for something else that they would not have preferred under independent will. This topic itself can be debated endlessly. <br />Almost all my friends have been telling me that Arun I don’t know if you will ever fall in whatever is called as true love, just because they think that I am selfish towards my own objectives, that I am and I will never let that be replaced. But then hey, I am not complaining, I am very happy the way I am and have not truly fallen in so called true love ever. <br />I infact laugh sometimes when guys complain that all girls want is money and girls complain that all guys want is physical pleasure. Why debate? Isnt that true? What is wrong if a girl wants financial security to be sure that her priorities are always met and what is wrong with a guy giving more importance to carnal desires. <br />Agreement needs to be done on the fact that there are always going to be shortcomings and if there has to be a relation that lasts all this , what is needed is that both people understand the limitations and agree rather than defend their biases. <br />I have seen people say that the other partner is very possessive of them and crib about that all the time but somehow compromise and say that it shows how much the other person cares for them. Once you lose your freedom to do things that you would have done if no other influence was there, you lose it all. There is no point in trying to compromise and “keep telling lies.” <br />I honestly find love too overrated at times and see that it is more of a support for the weak hearted. It just feels good sometimes to know that someone is there with you. People getting too possessive makes me sick. None holds the right to control the other person. Yeah and as you said abuse can be mental also. Feel pity for those who got through it and are weak to not accept it. Might be I am an egotist who loves himself too much. <br />I think I have been random in my points. I think there is a lot more that can be still said. I guess I should be back on this again and comment once I get more time. <br />The book, havent read but I remember going fr that movie with a friend of mine and man did not I suffer.. People actually found it hilarious..No offence.. but I liked the ending of the movie..wasnt the normal ending of everyone being happy.but that off moving on..that was the only silver lining.and my friend wasn’t happy that it ended in a not so happy ending <br /><br />Keep blogging!<br />Arun Rafi<br />http://arunrafi.wordpress.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-33797169896832290892009-06-03T22:42:06.948-04:002009-06-03T22:42:06.948-04:00A Fad it is...for some ppl :)
Keshi.A Fad it is...for some ppl :)<br /><br />Keshi.Keshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-79266131693255445372009-06-03T16:17:38.449-04:002009-06-03T16:17:38.449-04:00@ santasizing - Why Thankyou dearie :) GLad you en...@ santasizing - Why Thankyou dearie :) GLad you enjoyed the read. I can imagine how things are when you see someone go through pain like that ... :( Have blog rolled you, keep visiting...Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-47384267231744780762009-06-03T13:53:10.180-04:002009-06-03T13:53:10.180-04:00hehehe I can imagine. life sure takes a turn after...hehehe I can imagine. life sure takes a turn after marriage... maybe i'll post about that next :)) I don't know what your situation is going to be exactly, but truth be told : with a loving guy by your side, it all tides over... <br /><br />Till then have fun with your friends, spend AMPLE time with your family, pamper all those close to you, take in every moment of being single coz these days won't return ... One thing I do regret is I spent the whole time of my wedding with my hubby coz was meeting him after so long. Really wish had spent more of that time with my family ... you know ?? enjoyed the wedding with them :D Nyways, alls well that's ends well ... <br /><br />Yeah, I've been there so can just imagine all the excuses girls give to Themselves coz they believe that's how lovei s supposed to be . My mom taught me since I was young, give love and you'll get love... but she never told me there are people out there who have no concept of what love is about... they just know how to take from you and give nothing but sh*t in return ... and people take everything coz we think , when we care bout someone " yeh sab toh chalta rehta hai " ... It's just so wrong ... Sigh !! I can go on and on about this. Even my friends, even now succumb to that thought process that since I love him, it's ok for him to treat me how ever ... not done man !!! And nothing I say can deter them coz they think whatever I say is just coz I don't like the guy ( which of course I don't ) and that their case is unique, their love different ... and again, in a few days, my heart breaks when I see them crying .... why does he do this ? why is he so mean ? etc etc etc ... and then a few hours later, some crappy explainations and they're back to sq. one .. urrrrgggh !!! <br /><br />I remember once a friend of mine, called me in a horrid state, called her guy a MILLION names ( this was the nth time), and asked me to come be with her, see a movie or something... I traveled for 1.5 hours, leaving a party and when I reached back, there she was , standing with Him at the theater. I just walked away and stayed away from her love for misery... Icing on the cake a few months later, He dumped Her saying she wasn't good enough for Her ... That's people for you ...Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-66783246196387615302009-06-03T13:32:45.454-04:002009-06-03T13:32:45.454-04:00Hi Adi
ya i thought u may get confused so i explai...Hi Adi<br />ya i thought u may get confused so i explained... anyws... the wedding is on Nov 28th..if i had it my way i would be there like tomo :) but zalim duniya... have to wait n feel the days pass by.. anyws.. u knw at times its freaky to thnk of getting married ..as in being the youngest i haven really taken responsibilities... so being a Bahu..n wife n all is damn scary man!! when i get scared i cherish the time i have as a free willy :) its fun actually :) <br />coming to the point u n i made... ego has to be buried but there's a fine line betn tat n self respect... i thnk we all really knw when the boundaries r trespassed....i went thru a bad patch earlier but i decided to walk away cos i couldn compromise on my Being.. u knw.. n when we give in at tat level we get enslaved.. so many girls take shit frm BFs even get beaten..imagine .. n still take it..i dono why... u r so right in sayng don be in a relation for fear of loneliness.... so many people mistake tat for love...nupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03170963937095841145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-5126236300371321972009-06-03T12:39:43.353-04:002009-06-03T12:39:43.353-04:00OMG...thats an amazing post...with an amazing poin...OMG...thats an amazing post...with an amazing point of view...strangely..I relate to each of the pointers you mentioned..<br />some that I have seen,and some I have seen others go through...but no matter who it is..the end is always pain and more pain...<br />and so much pain in the name of LOVE,is just not done...<br />You are being followed!!:)<br />lovely blogsantasizing...Fantasizinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05603620913326431719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-86314365029179010082009-06-03T09:31:07.677-04:002009-06-03T09:31:07.677-04:00And the best part is the opposite also happens , ...And the best part is the opposite also happens , u know ?? some people confuse having self respect with " arre, I shouldn't be egoistic " and let things go on thinking letting people walk all over you is what love is all about .... Shoot !! I so HATE it when that happens ...Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-1132867099965689732009-06-03T09:22:29.847-04:002009-06-03T09:22:29.847-04:00Oh !! Aisa hai ?? Toh that's ok love.... I can...Oh !! Aisa hai ?? Toh that's ok love.... I can so relate to what you're going through. We had 1 year of courtship before we got married ( arranged tha ) and then when I visited kuwait for 3 months, my God the wait to get back to him was UNbearable ... But imagine after you're married and With him, and all this wait becomes bearable and easier.... a little :D Till then cribbign and venting is all we gurls have... :))<br /><br />I took a sigh of relief reading your reply. I was really waiting for it :) I know , you'er absolutely right. That's something people forget to teach others ... Never let anyone do Any of the " Not Ok " things to you. Self respect not be confused with Ego of course .... It's surprising that so many people take each other for granted or treat each other shabbiliy thinking , oh ! i don't know what they think when they do that .... I just wish gurls / guys even would sometimes use their heads and see whether they are being treated the way they Should be in a relation !! I so regret not doing that earlier when I was hurting... But then somethigns happen for a reason, i guess I appreciate my hubby all the more for hsi kindness and love .... :) If You know what I mean ... <br /><br />I hope you come here soon :) When's the wedding date ? Have you applied for visa yet ??Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-57738141994981834002009-06-03T09:02:46.186-04:002009-06-03T09:02:46.186-04:00hi Adi
i knw wat u mean..i have been there n done ...hi Adi<br />i knw wat u mean..i have been there n done that ...hope u knw wat i mean (thank god it isnt the dangerous types this time)... but seriously i sooooo Hate long distance....n get super pissed at times with life being a bitch... u jus sit n pine away... at times i cope at times i crib..this is the cribbing phase :) anyws but let me also say that its real worth it cos i knw m madly in love :) its a see saw of emotions u knw..but i totaly agree with wat u say... one more thing which i tell al my younger friends..never take shit from anybody... ur self respect is very inportant never let anyone crush it in the name of love...wat do u thnk ....nupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03170963937095841145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-82527912171910247242009-06-03T01:05:52.696-04:002009-06-03T01:05:52.696-04:00That is one hell of a long post...! i am going to ...That is one hell of a long post...! i am going to have to come back and read it... cant do it in the coffee break :)Ankshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17916012910034912977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-46455058922750716342009-06-02T17:56:30.074-04:002009-06-02T17:56:30.074-04:00FYI-I saw the movie and enjoyed. Don't miss it.FYI-I saw the movie and enjoyed. Don't miss it.Priyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149258892548866207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-58558747802742746272009-06-02T16:48:11.474-04:002009-06-02T16:48:11.474-04:00@ Nups - Hey, sweti ... As long as there is love, ...@ Nups - Hey, sweti ... As long as there is love, all will be fine. So don't worry !!! I hope the pain you are refering to is being away from your guy :) , for love that leaves you feeling numb and hurting ALL the time is a very dangerous kind of love ( by my experiance ) !!Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-61877882338997786082009-06-02T16:47:53.816-04:002009-06-02T16:47:53.816-04:00@ Kunjal - Thanks, I seriously feel by now, that p...@ Kunjal - Thanks, I seriously feel by now, that people tend to try to Make their love into what it should be ... Yeah, my life is the inspiration for this post ... :DAdishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-55716664416684577022009-06-02T16:47:41.209-04:002009-06-02T16:47:41.209-04:00@ Chriz - My Man said - Job well done dear :D He's...@ Chriz - My Man said - Job well done dear :D He's the one whose taught me how simple life and love are and should be. So, he's pretty much the source of this post. Through out our courtship and our marriage to date, he's been a perfect gentleman :) always ... even when he's really upset !!! hehehehee<br /><br /><br />Sure, do bring your wife back to read this one ... I'm sorry that some things hit the wrong spot but hey !! there are days and there are days :p :))Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-79521945047051319462009-06-02T16:47:26.431-04:002009-06-02T16:47:26.431-04:00@ Archana - Have full plans of catching up with th...@ Archana - Have full plans of catching up with the movie coz it is sure to be very different compared to the book, else usually the two are somewhat same but totally diff...<br /><br />You're so rightio , if you find love, then you don't need to make up excuses to yoruself or another .... Sure there's even tornadoes at times, but once you pass you the eye, things calm down instantly :D heheheheAdishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-21036059063865842002009-06-02T16:47:16.546-04:002009-06-02T16:47:16.546-04:00@ Hemanth - Well yeah ... yeah, but that fear of b...@ Hemanth - Well yeah ... yeah, but that fear of being lonely shouldn't let you lose your belief in yourself and rob you of your smiles ... :) Will keep smiling as you say ... thanks for the compliment !<br /><br />Mars and Venus, yeah, it's true most of the time specially after marriage when I hear wives and hubbies commenting the same way :)) But that's part of life ! ;)Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-90711665641810672682009-06-02T16:47:04.276-04:002009-06-02T16:47:04.276-04:00@ Keshi - What can I say ?? Some times it's all ju...@ Keshi - What can I say ?? Some times it's all just a fad !Adishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06757598390608351897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7836369048008643453.post-13145688836246563552009-06-02T14:48:46.023-04:002009-06-02T14:48:46.023-04:00hey Adi
Brilliant post... u knw i read ur reply to...hey Adi<br />Brilliant post... u knw i read ur reply to my comment in ur prev post.. so u actually made all that stuff amazing man :)i hope i too can someday... i wonder hw will i be as a homemaker..gives me jitters at times.. i hope i have it in me... anyws cmng back to this post, i liked ur candid simple love gyan... but u knw i sometimes feel love is painful n thats all that it is.. period!! i wish at times, i could be numb n not feel any of it..the love n the pain.... ya i knw m nt very upbeat so m sayng all ths but seriously its too much hassle n heartache to live thru... i agree with evry word u wrote.. but guess i would wrap it up saying ...its PAINFUL !! n its kiling me right nw....nupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03170963937095841145noreply@blogger.com